Talking to self in a noisy world

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How many people do we come across every day? We interact with quite a lot but may feel a void inside, longing for a company to open our minds. Sometimes, each day becomes a struggle when there is no one to hear you. You often fail to register moments that are left unshared.
We live in a connected world. We have the luxury of texting to someone very far away. Physical presence is no more the only way we interact with our loved ones. It could be through voice/video calls, WhatsApp, E-mail, Instagram, etc. It creates an impression that we are with someone or the other all the time. But does that mean we don't feel lonely?
We are being taught to be good social beings from childhood. We socialise, make friends, create memories and move forward. We live in the moment and it could be a smooth sail till there is a pause. When the surrounding noise is over and you sit somewhere pondering something, you may often feel that you are all alone, looking to keep your feet upright in a crazy little world. So, what is it that we are missing?

Understanding who we are
Can we imagine a life without people? It is going to be a hard thing to practice. We need their support to live. Irrespective of how they behave, we can't seclude ourselves away from people.
Sometimes we need to accept that it the inner self which is the only medium that is going to stay with us forever. Sonder - the realising moment that everyone is passing through the tricky phase that we are passing can guide us immensely. When we start talking to us, we get a completely new perspective about us. How? We are looking at ourselves just like another individual, not with any form of personal bias. It can define the actions we do and give more insights about us.
What is the medium to talk to the self? It is up to the individual to choose the one they are comfortable at. Jotting down in a diary or a journal, making some art, the habit of thinking while lying in a couch and watching something, daydreaming - there are different ways of doing it. Sometimes, it can make you feel boring and tiring too. But the bottom line is to treat you well by none other than yourself. We don't have to let ourselves down when we know what is suited for us.
Give this a nice try and maybe the rest of the things will eventually follow.















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