Rejection is normal

Every act of rejection is not the end of the road. Sometimes, some words of criticism may ignite a fire in our minds to carry out tasks in a purposeful manner. Life makes us all learn a bitter lesson that not everyone will perceive something the way you'd love them to be. What is the best way to make it less harmful to us? Let each mode of refusal infuse significant energy to keep us moving. Let the disappointing words create a positive push.

But aren't we all humans who trigger negativity in our minds upon encountering some rejections? Sometimes, the sadness that we feel for our rejected article or a research proposal or a lost love can keep our mornings and evenings unhappy. So, what can we do? Let us learn to recall one phrase which can be of help -- 'this is not the end of the road'. Life is a long journey which is not going to be a smooth ride all the time. Sometimes when we are clueless, we can choose to turn the pages of history or give a look around ourselves to realise that even the most successful and loved personalities have always had some rejections in the past. You might wonder how they survived. The secret to their success was that they did not stop trying.

However, we are not extraordinary humans but ordinary people who live a routine life. We often feel that stories of hope and determination are not meant for us but only for great people with great courage. But this is also one way of alienating ourselves from fighting it out -- the logic of denying. We say no to certain things before realising it late that we were wrong and our assumptions were incorrect.

There are hundreds of people who passed this acid test and managed to keep a smile till the very end. What is it that kept their spirits high? They realised that nobody lives a positive life all the time and highs and lows are part of our living. So the best step is to take everything in the stride -- both positive and negative stuff and postpone the analysing part to future. Be critical of ourselves and do a self-examination to know things like - where we missed, what we could have done and how we could have changed it. Give a short break to let the mind absorb the pain of rejection and come up with logical answers. 

If we can't keep away the pain of rejection and suffer for long, ask ourselves a question - how many activities do we do each day that is of no use to the mind and the body? Does it strike that we missed their warnings and ended up regretting later? What our decision caused was that it resulted in more strain to them. Let's not feel too bad about it as sufferings and rejections are normal. It may happen regularly and need not have to look personal all the time. Next time, be sure not to react to it emotionally, but bring in our wisdom to give it a healing touch for best results. When we learn to overcome pain, no matter what the situation demands, we relearn the art of finding peace and staying calm.